Perspective

Give distance and avoidance --> Get distance and avoidance

When we are distant and avoid our spouse, we can very easily expect the same thing from them and vise versa.

It's an unfortunate cycle but it seems as though it's impossible to break. This is when we move from the natural and into the divine. This is when there needs to be a change.

And more specifically:

A CHANGE IN PERSPECTIVE!

Many would argue that there needs to be a change in behavior first. While that may work in some cases, how can there be a true change of behavior without first changing our personal perspective on the circumstances or the person?

By being willing to change our perspectives, we are allowing ourselves to see the situation as the other would see it.

For example:

Two men see an orange. They both want it and argue over who gets it until they finally decide to split it. The first man peels this orange and throws the peel away. The second man does the same except he throws the orange away.

The problem in this situation was the lack of communication between the two men. They both knew what they wanted but they weren't willing to tell the other.

When it comes to marriage, understanding your spouse's perspective is absolutely crucial. I feel as though that is one of the most selfless things we can do. We each have our initial beliefs on what we want, but we need to understand that they have their own belief as well.

Avec Amour,

Elisse