How many times have we been asked this question? How many endless lists have we made to create that person?
Think of the game MASH - not only were we creating an ideal person through that game, but we were also creating our ideal life. And how often were we disappointed with the results we got? Sure we got our number one pick here and there but that doesn't necessarily mean we got every one. I remember trying to get the perfect amount of tally marks so I would at least get the most important thing - the perfect guy.
Now it seems like there's nothing wrong with that. It's just an innocent game, right? It gives us the chance to write out our perfect life; is that really so bad?
Honestly, yes. It is. Because it's not just the game, it's how we look at our lives. We grew up dreaming out exactly the kind of life we wanted. And, more importantly, we grew up dreaming about the perfect person for us.
Don't get me wrong, it's important to know what we want to look for in a person. There are some characteristics or qualities that may be essential. But I feel as though the title we give it that context needs to be changed.
OUR IDEAL PERSON SHOULD BE THE ONE WHO STEALS OUR HEARTS - NOT THE PERSON WE'VE CREATED IN OUR MINDS!
Let's be honest, how many people have we turned away because he or she didn't fit our list? How many people have we walked by because, at first glance, we thought they couldn't possibly live up to all the expectations and requirements we have set?
At a young age, I created my list. I grew up convinced that I was going to find the person who checked everything off that list. It was a selfish notion. But when I finally found someone, that checklist...it didn't matter anymore. Because, suddenly, he became my ideal.
So instead of playing the Let's See Who Can Check Everything Off The List game, how about we allow those who could become our ideal into our lives?
Avec Amour,
Elisse
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